David Essel’s 8 Laws of Success
The “Law of Attraction” excites Americans with dreams coming true, like imagining "checks in the mail ", so that we become millionaires or, by having a vision board, we will somehow magically attract our soulmate. It taps into the emotional side of many people who love to live in this realm of life. But it’s not very realistic. It’s more “wishful thinking” than anything else. Let’s think for a moment. If a program offers huge results, with little to no effort, isn’t it time to stop buying into the insanity? Millions of people have used this technique, yet few will ever find success from “wishful thinking or fantastical affirmations.”
So, where do we go from here? …
In my #1 best selling book, "Positive thinking will never change your life…But this book will! The myth of positive thinking, the reality of success," I share that affirmations are a great way to start the day…But it doesn’t matter how much emotion someone puts behind them, they are never going to radically change anyone’s life, unless it’s a miracle. Enough of the nonsense!
The following information can be used by anyone to create the life they desire.
#1. The ability to be successful lies within everyone. Yes, you can create an incredible income, lose the weight you desire, create deep loving relationships, release addictions and find a pathway to your creator. You have THE RIGHT to be successful, as much anyone else on this earth.
#2. Unless it’s a miracle, your thoughts are not powerful enough to create success on their own. Your thoughts will not create "checks in the mail", weight loss, nor will they attract the perfect lover. We’ve been fed nonsense, if we believe these success fallacies. This is crucial to not only understand, but to accept as true.
# 3. The number one block to success, are the beliefs held deep within the subconscious mind. The role of the subconscious, is to keep you exactly where you are, which is commonly referred to as the "comfort zone of life." Now, this doesn’t mean that the "comfort zone", or these subconscious thoughts are healthy. Wherever you are lacking success, we can guarantee that your subconscious thoughts are sabotaging the success you desire.
# 4. A thought, regardless of how positive it is, cannot change a negative behavior long term. Unless it’s a miracle. You cannot "think, or affirm", your way out of an addiction, financial hardship or a terrible relationship.
# 5. The only way to turn the subconscious mind around, from a saboteur to an ally, is to repetitively, on a daily basis, do the action steps you would rather not do. Success demands that we all invest more time, effort and money into our biggest goals. Over time, you can create a subconscious mindset that will continue to push you forward on your path of success.
# 6. In 37 years of work in the field of personal growth, we have found on average that an individual who is struggling deeply with addiction, weight, finances or their love life… Will have to put approximately 12 months, or 365 days of doing the work they would rather not do, in the area of life they are struggling with, in order to turn the subconscious mind around.
#7. Through action steps into the uncomfortable for a 12- month period time, the uncomfortable just becomes who you are. Where in the beginning it was a struggle to lose 100 pounds, at the end of 12 months of changing your diet and exercise habits, the new habits simply become who you are. An effortless part of your life. Success.
# 8. Affirmations, vision boards, and the like, will be important for only 20% of your success. Regardless of what you’ve been told, statements such as, "what you think about you bring about" are not true. Unless it’s a miracle. 80% of your success will come from your willingness to do the steps you would rather not do on a daily basis. This is the true "secret" of success.
David Essel, M.S. is the best selling author of 9 books, a counselor and master life coach and inspirational speaker whose work is endorsed by celebrities like Jenny McCarthy, Wayne Dyer, Kenny Loggins and Mark Victor Hansen.