Forgiveness: Why You Should Consider It and How to Forgive

A gift to yourself  

The idea of forgiveness makes many people shout, Never!!  Indeed, resentment, blame, recrimination and desire for revenge seem so much more natural than forgiveness.

Is there anything to be gained by forgiving an offender?

Formerly associated only with spiritual wellbeing, it is now known that it also enhances emotional, mental and physical health. Releasing resentment, hatred and bitterness breaks the troubling connection with the offender. No longer consumed by what was done to you, you can move away from and beyond the offense. Without the crippling emotions, wounding can turn into strength and wisdom.

Some facts about forgiveness

Forgiveness does not demand you forget the experience. It does not mean you are condoning what happened or minimising the offence. It will not make you look weak or vulnerable. In fact, if possible and appropriate, you can clearly express the impact the harmful actions had on you. Your forgiveness does not depend on the offender deserving it, asking for it or expressing remorse. It does not mean reconciling or trusting if there is no sign of change or sincere regret.

Are you ready to forgive?

Forgiveness can’t be forced. It is a choice you can make or not make. You may never be ready or only many years after the incident that hurt or harmed you.

You are ready to let go of pain and bitterness when –

  • You are willing to let the past be past
  • You are prepared to look at the incident rationally and from a broad perspective, taking all factors into account
  • You are tired of feeling like a victim
  • You question the idea that the past is responsible for your present unhappiness
  • You realize that it’s up to you whether you accept stagnation or move forward

Choose your kind forgiveness

If you think of forgiveness as a benevolent emotion you might never be able to feel it for an offender. But there is another form of forgiveness where the negative emotional charge is replaced with matter-of-fact acceptance and indifference. It is based on a rational and realistic assessment of the painful incident, how it came about and each person’s part in it. This is often enough to release the negative bondage to the perpetrator/offender so they no longer play a role in your present and future life.

The four steps of forgiveness

  1. Tell your storyDescribe what happened. Acknowledge that an offense has taken place and assign responsibility appropriately. Clearly identify the person(s) who caused you harm.
  1. Acknowledge the pain you are feelingIt may fluctuate, rise in intensity or recede into the background. Don’t try to suppress your emotions. But also don’t disappear into them. Witness your feelings and hang in there until they subside. Watch and challenge your thoughts connected with the feelings. Are they rational or dramatizing the situation? Are they true and realistic or merely loud and insistent? Are they making you feel worse or helping your emotional release?
  1. Understand what happenedWhy might the other person have behaved the way they did? What is their story? Was the offense intentionally directed at you or was it a result of their own failing? Did they set out to hurt you or were you in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people?
  1. Tell the story differentlyWithout condoning the offense, use your new perspective to reframe the experience with greater understanding and detachment.
  2. Create closure. Use whatever gives you a sense of completion:
    • Write a forgiveness letter to the offender. It can be sent, burnt or symbolically released in some way.
    • Create a ritual that symbolizes your shift. For example, draw a symbol of your pain onto a balloon and release it into the sky.
    • Celebrate your new perspective by doing something special you enjoy.

Acknowledge that you had the strength and courage to extend forgiveness to someone who may or may not deserve it. That no longer matters. Forgiveness is about you, not them. The most important part is achieving your own inner freedom, whether it is based on compassion or neutral acceptance.

What if you have to forgive yourself?

Sometimes it is easier to forgive the actions of another person than your own transgression or mistake. You may be beating yourself up, stuck in self-recrimination, guilt and shame, because of something you did or did not do. But there is no benefit to self-condemnation. It does not change anything. Only choosing different behaviours or making amends for your actions will make a difference for the future.

For self-forgiveness you need to extend compassion or at least understanding to yourself.

Acknowledge that you did the best you could, with the knowledge you had, in the circumstances, with the resources available, at the time. Choose self-acceptance instead of a destructive self-assessment and apply the steps described above.

Creating a state of forgiveness can be done in private or with a trusted person, through writing, artistic expression, imagination or specific therapeutic approaches. Whatever your way, remember your ultimate aim — to lift the emotional clouds within you and free yourself from the negativity that keeps you tied to the past.

If you were able to forgive someone, how did you benefit? Did you try to forgive, but found it too difficult? How did you forgive yourself when you had tripped up? What is your experience with forgiveness? Feel free to share your thoughts and leave a comment.  

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A Simple Evening: A Picnic Date Night

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

I shared a week or so ago that Mike and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary. It felt big this year for some reason. Maybe it has to do with being through the first year of parenting or saying we survived or maybe even thrived. I am not sure. No matter what, we didn’t want to let this 7-year mark just go to the wayside so we decided we would celebrate a few different times. One evening we took a date night early in the month and packed a dinner to have on the boat. The night was windy but warm so we stuck close to the dock and enjoyed spending time on the sailboat together. I spent most of the day before our date night prepping the food while watching Hayes. So it was simple things I could easily transport and make while Hayes was at my feet. Mike and I love being on the boat, but this year it has been a lot less often, since Hayes isn’t a huge fan, so this night felt really special to get out on the water together and enjoy the sun setting while we ate some fresh food.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

What I love about boat dinners, is they are meant to be simple, but full of flavor. They should be a meal that pairs well with a good bottle of rosé, and very little is needed. I made a simple tomatoe salad with the first round of tomatoes at the market and a pasta dish coated in a buttery sauce that was cooked with chopped up garlic scapes and early onions. Nothing was complicated and it wasn’t intended to be.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

Before we headed north to the boat, we stopped at our favorite food store in town, Burritt’s and grabbed some wine, smoked fish, and a selection of cheeses. We also nabbed a couple chocolate bars for dessert.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

To do this, I packed the food and dishware and silverware as well as necessary serving pieces. I also brought a few extra napkins than what I knew we would need just in case. I brought glasses for the wine and made sure we had a screw off topped bottle of rosé.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

Years back, Mike and I went in with my parents to help maintain and take care of our their 27′ Catalina sail boat. Since they live downstate some and we live close by we can help out and enjoy it so it felt right for us to pay for it with them. This meant we now could come out more often and enjoy it. The boat is just the right size for evenings like this or quiet days on the water 4-5 people. Though it isn’t ideal these days with Hayes we love evenings out here enjoying Suttons Bay and the calm of the evening water.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

When Mike and I were planning this month of celebrations, we talked about how eating on the boat would be a perfect way to celebrate. So many memories have been made on this boat with my family and Mike’s when they come to visit. We have been enjoying sailing Suttons Bay for almost 6 years with my family and it feels like an essential part of our life here. I didn’t grow up sailing. My dad used to race but because I grew up down state it wasn’t something we did till I was in college and my parents moved back to the area. Mike had never sailed either so we both have had to learn and we also have both fallen in love with the rhythm and feeling of the water when sailing. The quiet of riding through the lake with the wind in the sails and how present you must be to the wind around you and the ripples on the water is a wonderful practice of being present with the water and earth. I love anything that brings my awareness of our surroundings to the forefront. Though one day I am sure it will make more sense for a different type of boat, I hope to make sure our kids spend days learning to sail so they understand the beauty of feeling the winds fill your sails.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

The night of our dinner, even though the wind was too high for us to enjoy a meal relaxing anchored in the bay, we deeply enjoyed sitting there at the dock eating our dinner, trying some new cheese, and drinking a bottle of wine together.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

After the first year of becoming parents and we felt we could finally find some semblance of what life would look like for us as a couple, we decided this year to date more. Since Mike works more on his own these days as I pursue some new things and spend time as a mom, we don’t get as much time together as we used to. It seems that by the end of the day we are so tired, we hit the pillow and pass out. Sometimes this results in not getting to catch up, connect, and be apart of each other’s lives the way we used to be. Thus, we now have a standing date night every other week so we can be sure to get time together. We don’t plan much typically. Sometimes, we go for a swim and get a light dinner or we end up on the boat together. Really it is just meant to get us out together without the confines of work, parenthood, or anything else to feel like us. I have learned in these past 7 years that making time like this is really important whether you work together, are parents, don’t work together, or whatever. We have learned this time is really precious and is what makes the difference. Being intentional of setting aside time to be together and be present without distractions to really hear each other is a key to feeling as if your paths are walking not only side-by-side but as if your in step with one another.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

Very rarely do our dinners, involve just us. Most of the time our gatherings involve Mike behind a camera, me entertaining and setting things up with friends, so to enjoy a dinner together as just the two of us as A Simple Evening felt pretty darn special and romantic. We didn’t need a fancy restaurant to make a special evening, we just needed a great selection of good food and some great wine with a view of the water.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

This month, I want to really challenge you to setup a date night simple evening. Choose some napkins, set the table, light some candles, play some music, buy or make your favorite foods, and do it all together. There is something truly special about enjoying an evening whether at home, on the beach, in a favorite park, on a boat, in your backyard, or on a blanket on a roof top with the one you love. Find a quiet and special place and set it up just for you two. It may sometimes be easier to just make a reservation or just cook in like normal, but something about breaking routine and creating something intentional together is bound to bring about memories and a connection that will make your date night or anniversary feel extra special.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

I cannot wait to see how our little dinner on the boat will inspire you guys to get out and do something similar. Remember to always tag your own #ASimpleEvening so we can see how our gatherings inspire you!

A Simple Evening for two. A little boat picnic gathering for our anniversary that felt just like the best way to celebrate. See the whole story and tips on The Fresh Exchange.

So tell me, what gatherings are you planning for the summer before it begins to turn towards fall? Do you have something specific coming up?! I would love to hear. Gatherings always makes me so happy big or small!

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Coastal Living’s Idea House: A Master Class in Decorating

I had grand plans to attend the Coastal Living Idea House in Newport recently but we had a Henry meltdown/ nap protest and I didn’t get to go. But I am going to try to get there because HOLY HELL it is spectacular. One of my junior designers Kristen went and took a zillion pics and I’m psyched to show you because Mark Sikes, the designer of the house and one of my personal favorites of all time, did such an incredible job that I wanted to walk through what makes this house an incredible example of impeccable decorating. I want to LIVE in this room….

It’s a bold choice to use a stripe in the hallways of a large home, but it works SO well. It makes what is typically a boring “pass through” space an awesome statement.

The pairing of modern art and the classic stripe is A+ too.  One of the most amazing things about this house is the level of detail. Not the patterned pleated sconce shades.

Looking into the amazing family room and kitchen.  Mark is known for his love of blue and white and this house is a perfect example of how to use the color combo in a  fresh way where each room feel different but flows into each other seamlessly.

Check out the modern use of fringe trim on the drapes and the fab curation of the coffee table accessories.

Stripes and checks and florals…oh my!

Can I move in?

I loooooove the kitchen.

The crisp navy and white is just awesome and modern yet totally traditional too.

And don;t forget about coordinating your dog beds to your decor, folks!

The butlers pantry is INSANE.  Two different wallpapers, Florals, stripes and geometrics all meeting in one space!

Always pay attention to surfaces oft overlooked like the ceilings- especially in smaller spaces it pays off BIG time to use wallpaper here or simply a paint color.

The dining area is cozy but functional (you could pull that table up to the window seat and use as a banquette.

The use of the border of the fabric on the side of the cushion is amazing.

The formal living room has upholstered walls topped by a very modern piece of art, which looks so cool.  The bordered cushions are so crisp.

Note the skinny woven trim around the edges of the walls and trim. Pretty baller.

A dark navy mudroom off the stripes hallway.

Art in the stairwell. Amazing.

Another upholstered wall paired with a four poster bed. I adore this space, it’s fun to go a little wild with pattern in a guest room.

Framed botanicals, a vintage rattan headboard and a graphic paper play well together with a floral fabric.

Its busy but awesome.

This room is making me itch to do Henry’s big boy room. The check walls are incredible.

Paired with the modern art in reds it looks SO fun and fabulous.

In the master things are a tiny bit less playful, but still layered and interesting.

The limed oak wood looks fantastic with the blue floral walls.

I adore the details on these window treatments too.  Small details like this really add up to make the space feel super special and thoughtful.

These hallways are blowing my mind.

Another example of modern art looking amazing on patterned wallpaper.

I’m loving the dark subway with light grout paired with patterned wallpaper (and that rope mirror to make it less serious!)

The master bathroom:

I’m not entirely sure what this space is- looks like an office/ guest suite- perhaps above the garage?

Whatever it is its awesome. 🙂

Patio outside the office/guest suite.

The patio is a study in blue and white stripes and old school wicker.

Love the simplicity of the pool design as well.

Some suggestions on how to get this look in your own space!

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Nock Co. x One Star Leather Fodderstack XL

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Since early 2015, the nylon Fodderstack XL case by our friends at Nock Co. has been a useful way to carry your favorite pocket notebook (or stack of index cards) and a nice pen or two.

Last week, they unveiled a collaboration with Keegan Uhl of One Star Leather Goods — the same guy who makes awesome stuff like the Park Sloper wallet + notebook cover and Hobonichi Techo planner cover — for a leather version of the Fodderstack XL. In their own words, the Leather Fodderstack XL “brings the same style and fit to the table, but in a beautiful and durable tan leather that will age wonderfully.”

Get it for $60 at Nock Co.


Check out our April 2015 review of the original (non-XL) Fodderstack. (Spoiler alert: We love it.)

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Peaks TV: ‘Twin Peaks’ Episode 11: According To Jim Belushi, Becky’s Got A Gun

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The return of Twin Peaks is a lot to process. After each episode, Uproxx’s Alan Sepinwall and Keith Phipps — or, this week, Josh Kurp pinch-hitting for a vacationing Keith — attempt to hash out what we all just watched.

Alan: First of all, Josh, welcome aboard this crazy train. Should we toast some champagne to your arrival? Chow down on some damn good cherry pie? Or just share a VW Microbus ride into town after you get thrown off a car-hood, T.J. Hooker-style?

I’m curious for both your overall thoughts on the revival so far, and on the many strange doings of “Part 11” in particular. This was, like most of The Return, a hodgepodge of ideas and tones — one minute broad comedy with Dougie and the Mitchums and Candie, another loud melodrama with Becky and her parents, another pure supernatural horror like the Charred Man crushing William Hastings’ skull while Gordon Cole is busy staring at a cosmic sinkhole — yet so many of the individual pieces were stunning to experience. And occasionally, like the long sequence in and outside of the Double-R, it felt like we were getting all the disparate pieces of the revival at once, like how the family drama (Bobby is revealed to be Becky’s dad) keeps morphing into something both more ridiculous (the mom angry about the gun in the minivan) and unsettling (Shelly abruptly rushing out to kiss Red as if she’s under some spell, the sick passenger of the honking woman seeming to levitate out of the seat to slowly vomit up some disgusting fluid) at the same time.

On social media tonight, I saw a mix of people feeling despair at how slowly the story is moving — and how clear it is by now that if Dougie turns back into Good Coop at all, it’ll be very close to the end of things — and others marveling at the individual sights and sounds and emotions on display. I fall somewhere in the middle, though more towards the latter group: I wish there was more story here than Lynch and Frost appear to have, but damn if this show doesn’t consistently make me feel like I’ve never seen or heard these things before. What about you?

Josh: Thank you for having me. I was planning on making my presence known by obnoxiously honking my horn, but your introduction works, too.

Anyway, I’ve enjoyed the revival so far, despite (or maybe because of?) Dougie, the tangents that go nowhere, and the extra-long runtimes. It’s nice to live in this world again, even if a good chunk of the revival takes place outside of Twin Peaks. And if I’m being honest, the Double-R scenes have been some of my least favorite. That’s especially true of “Part 11.” You know that crinkled-face look a disapproving Norma gives from a nearby booth? That’s me whenever Becky and/or Steven are around. I’m trying to find something interesting about them, outside of her being related to characters from the original series (Shelly and an impossibly cool-looking Bobby), and failing. I’m surprised by how little I care. I’m also shocked by — and I feel dirty just typing — how much I like Jim Belushi as one-half of the Mitchum brothers. His howling at the sky, after realizing that his dream came true and, yes, that is a cherry pie in the box Dougie is holding, was a moment of pure catharsis. For a second, I even thought Dougie might snap back into Good Coop, but the moment was short lived. A familiar tune on the piano and pie awakened something in Dougie, but not what you and many others hoped for.

Earlier, you mentioned the hodgepodge of ideas in “Part 11.” Did this episode feel like Twin Peaks greatest hits to you? I don’t mean that in a bad way — if the show was a band, it would be selling out arenas, not playing state fairs in Nebraska — but the episode had nearly all of his Lynch’s trademarks: dark comedy, melodrama, extreme violence, surreal visuals (the electric sky portal) and visions (the Charred Men), the Red Room, the Log Lady’s vague clues, the coffee and doughnuts and pie, fire, a car traveling down an empty highway. Albert even guesses what Diane is going to say (“fuck you”) before she can say it.

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Alan: Yeah, I don’t think it was nearly as cohesive an hour as the birth of evil episode — it’s funny for me to think of that episode as cohesive, given how initially baffled I was by it, but it’s easily the strongest hour of the revival in terms of all the pieces belonging together tonally and thematically — but in its individual, mismatched pieces, it had most of the things I hope for from Lynch and Frost at their best.

Don’t feel guilty for praising Jim Belushi! When he’s in character actor mode like this, as opposed to According to Jim mode, he’s often really good — see also Salvador, The Ghost Writer, or Show Me A Hero — and ever since he appeared in one of the earliest Twin Peaks ripoffs, the Oliver Stone-produced ABC miniseries Wild Palms, I’ve been curious to see him in the genuine article. Like most of The Return, the Mitchum brother scenes tend to linger several beats too long, but Belushi and Robert Kenpper have fit in quite nicely, and at this point, their presence can be more comforting than hanging with the townies. I’m not hugely engaged by the Becky drama, in part because Lynch and Frost have done such a poor, intermittent job of featuring her across these 12 episodes, but the way that Shelly went from fiercely protective mama bear insisting on spending the night with her daughter to sprinting out the Double-R doors to kiss Red was really unsettling. When he did the coin trick with Richard Horne, the show seemed to be suggesting Red had actual magical powers, and Shelly’s reaction in this moment seemed like she was entirely under his control. Red’s appeared even less than Becky so far — the adventures of Dougie consume a lot of oxygen that might otherwise be more evenly distributed among characters both old and new — but he’s one of the newcomers I’m most eager to see more of, even if it feels like we’re running out of time, two-thirds of the way through this experiment.

But man oh man, that sequence in the abandoned lot where Gordon saw the sky invert, Albert saved him from blinking out of existence, and the Charred Man slipped into Detective Macklay’s backseat to let his fingers do the walking across William Hastings’ skull. That’s Lynch at the height of his powers as a visual and aural stylist: the hum of electricity, the very different ways the scene looks from the perspective of Gordon versus Albert versus Diane versus William, the way the Charred Man kept appearing and disappearing at will, and then that sound of finger-on-bone again — which did not help me sleep at all despite staying up very late to watch this and write our first entry after my Game of Thrones duties were complete.

Every now and then in The Return, we’ll get an exchange that feels meta, even if it’s not meant that way. For me last night it was Hawk showing Frank Truman the map, explaining that it’s, “Very old, but always current. It’s a living thing.” We can try to analyze what the map means, how it links up to the coordinates Albert found on Ruth’s arm, the blink-and-you’ll-miss-her reintroduction of Alicia Witt as Donna Hayward’s younger sister Gersten — a character whose existence I had forgotten, and who appears to be the mistress Becky is so upset about — and a lot more if you want. But for all its frustrations, Twin Peaks: The Return really does feel like a living thing.

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Josh: And much like a living thing, it’s imperfect. But that’s honestly one of my favorite things about The Return, especially when, as you mentioned, watching it after Game of Thrones. HBO’s mega-hit can occasionally be stuffy in its preciseness. (I could go the rest of my life without a scene set around a table that doubles as a map again.) Meanwhile, Twin Peaks feels spontaneous and scruffy. It’s impossible to predict where it’s going, and even when it gets there, it’s hard to tell why. Why does that child look so casually evil staring at Bobby? Why did Jesse ask Sheriff Truman if he wanted to see his new car? And to combine the two, what’s with the zombie girl? Who knows! It’s Lynch and Frost at their most mischievous, and “Part 11” was particularly rascally. Maybe that’s a weird thing to say about an episode where a nearly-beaten-to-death woman crawls out of the woods and Becky tries to shoot her cheating boyfriend and Matthew Lillard’s head gets crushed by a “dirty bearded” man (leading to one of my favorite deadpan lines of the season: “He’s dead”), but there was a lot of playfulness among the terror. Mister Jackpots!

Which is good, because there’s darkness on the edge of Twin Peaks. The Charred Men are omnipresent, Hawk and Truman are out of their league (even the Log Lady warns them, “There’s fire where you are going”), and let’s not forget the headless, naked corpse (with coordinates on her arm) near the cosmic vortex, either. I can easily imagine a scenario where Lynch, that scamp, has Dougie being the only character who gets out of The Return alive and/or not-miserable. Have you started thinking end-game yet, or are you along for the twisting-and-turning, hood-of-a-car ride, not the destination?

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Alan: It feels silly to try to predict where the story’s going at this point, especially since there are so many dangling threads, and since Dougie still feels so far away from becoming Good Coop. At this point, I’m not expecting everything to tie together neatly, nor for many of the detours to justify their existence. I’m just enjoying the parts I can — and when it’s a moment like vomiting zombie girl, or the cosmic sinkhole, I’m enjoying it a lot — and shrugging off the other stuff as the cost of doing business with Lynch. (Cherry) pie in the sky world where most of it makes narrative sense? Well, I want to see Good Coop return to confront Bad Coop, and to share significant moments with Diane, Gordon, Albert, and preferably a few townies (we’re still waiting on an Audrey appearance, for instance). I’d like to see Laura manifest in some form beyond archival footage or her brief appearance in the Lodge in the premiere (the Log Lady did, after all, remind us last week that Laura is “the one”). I’d like to see some version of Major Briggs encounter the man his son has become. I’d like to see if there’s really a point to Ray and Becky and Steven and Richard and some of the other newbies I’ve already forgotten because we haven’t seen them in five or six weeks. I wouldn’t object to a continuation of the New Mexico story from “Part 8” and see if it more directly ties into the Laura/Leland/BOB story.

But I’m not expecting most of that. Two-thirds of the way in, I’ve calibrated my expectations to “Wait for David Lynch to show me something I’ve never seen before so I can say, ‘Whoa,’” and anything beyond that is a second slice of that damn good pie.

Josh: I referenced my Dougie prediction earlier, but I have another. Are you ready for it? In headline speak, This Twin Peaks Finale Will Literally Blow Your Skull Open Like It’s Just Been Crushed By a Woodsman. Here it is:

[20 minutes of car horns, static, screaming, Harry Dean Stanton blowing a whistle, and vomiting noises]

I can’t wait.

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NBC Invites Viewers to Travel to “Midnight, Texas”

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As the recent Emmy nominations made clear, cable networks and streaming services are dominating the cultural conversation when it comes to television. While new nominees like “Stranger Things,” “Westworld,” “The Crown,” and “The Handmaid’s Tale” earned dozens of nominations, the broadcast networks were left with essentially one representative, NBC’s “This is Us.” It’s the lone outlier in a system that seems to increasingly favor everything but the big five that used to be the kings of the hill. And one can see the impact that this has had on networks like ABC and NBC, desperate to find a hit, critically or commercially. As someone who has been doing this for almost twenty years, it’s fascinating to watch the cultural shift take place as the networks openly try to mimic what’s worked on their more successful cable competitors. And so we get a show like “Midnight, Texas,” which would have been relegated to basic cable a decade ago and which feels like a blatant attempt to copy something that was already successful on HBO. Charlaine Harris’ books became a hit for HBO in the form of “True Blood.” Let’s just do it again on NBC!

At its best, “True Blood” was a sexy, mysterious, blood-drenched soap opera. That’s a tough thing to pull off on NBC in 2017 and to say “Midnight, Texas” doesn’t get there would be an understatement. It’s the tame version of something you grew tired of on HBO years ago. And that’s putting it politely. There’s no energy here—sexual, supernatural, mystery. It’s just remarkably flat despite a talented cast doing everything in their power to make it interesting. I believe the source material was probably thoroughly entertaining. The show is not.

Francois Arnaud (“The Borgias”) plays Manfred, who is essentially like the adult version of the kid from “The Sixth Sense.” He uses his power to talk to dead people to make some money as a medium for lonely, still-living souls to hear from their loved ones. He also spends a great deal of time talking to his dead grandmother, getting her advice. She recommends he move to a small town called Midnight, which is kind of like Sunnydale (“Buffy the Vampire Slayer”) in its recurrence of supernatural activity and proximity to “the other side.” It’s a town of outcasts, including a literal angel (Jason Lewis), a centuries-old vampire (Peter Mensah), a mysterious assassin (Arielle Kebbel), and a reverend with a secret (Yul Vazquez).

The first few episodes introduce us to this odd cast of characters, who are all, well, not quite odd. For a show about a town of people with supernatural backgrounds, “Midnight, Texas” is stunningly routine. Perhaps we have just gotten too used to the genre, but “Midnight, Texas” takes no risks. Even a show like the underrated “Supernatural” has found ways to tweak the formula in ways that “Midnight, Texas” feels afraid to do. It doesn’t help that Arnaud isn’t an engaging lead, but it’s more a world creation problem here in that none of this has enough personality. It’s a show about vampires, shapeshifters, assassins, and mediums that still finds a way to be boring. That’s almost an accomplishment. Just not the kind the broadcast networks used to be known for.

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Nicholas Hoult Stars as Salinger in First Trailer for ‘Rebel in the Rye’

Rebel in the Rye Trailer

"Are you willing to devote your life to telling stories?" IFC Films has debuted an official trailer for the film Rebel in the Rye, an indie drama which first premiered at the Sundance Film Festival earlier this year. The film stars Nicholas Hoult as famed author J.D. Salinger, telling the story of his early years, his time fighting in WWII, and his pursuit of a love interest. It also shows how the success of his novel, Catcher in the Rye, turned him into a recluse, staying out of the public for the rest of his life after it was published in 1951. The cast includes Zoey Deutch as Oona O’Neill, Kevin Spacey, Lucy Boynton, Sarah Paulson, Victor Garber, Hope Davis, Amy Rutberg, James Urbaniak, Celeste Arias, and Eric Bogosian. This received dismal reviews at Sundance, and not so surprisingly the trailer doesn’t look that great either.

Here’s the first official trailer for Danny Strong’s Rebel in the Rye, direct from IFC’s YouTube:

Rebel in the Rye Movie

Rebel in the Rye follows a young J. D. Salinger (Nicholas Hoult) as he struggles to find his voice, pursues a love affair with famed socialite Oona O’Neill (Zoey Deutch), and fights on the frontlines of World War II. It’s these experiences that will inform the creation of his masterpiece, The Catcher in the Rye, bringing him overnight fame (and notoriety) and leading him to withdraw from the public eye for the rest of his life. Rebel in the Rye is both written and directed by American actor-turned-filmmaker Danny Strong, making his feature directorial debut after a few episodes of "Empire" previously. It’s adapted from the novel "J.D. Salinger: A Life" by Kenneth Slawenski. This first premiered at the Sundance Film Festival earlier this year. IFC Films will open Strong’s Rebel in the Rye in select theaters starting September 15th this fall. Curious?

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Watch: Peculiar Short Film ‘Lightningface’ Starring Oscar Isaac in Full

Lightningface Short Film

"I thought I knew who I was. But I knew nothing… And then it happened." Let’s kick off this week with a short film we’ve been waiting to watch for over a year. After playing at film festivals all around the world, Vimeo has finally premiered the short film Lightningface online in full, from director Brian Petsos. The short film stars Oscar Isaac as a man named Basil Stitt who goes through a transformative experience after being struck by lightning one day. We originally posted a trailer for this short more than a year ago, and now that it has played at fests exclusively, it’s available online. This is a very strange, intriguing short that goes to some trippy places at the end. It’s great to see Oscar Isaac in this, but I’m not sure what to make of it. You?

Lightningface Short Film

Official synopsis: Lightningface stars Oscar Isaac as Basil, a man who seemingly has it all. When out for a smoke one night, Basil gets struck by lightning – he wakes up to find his face scarred and quickly spirals out of control, sequestering himself in his apartment as he cuts ties with his girlfriend, his family, and his work. He then begins to believe that he is bound of an otherworldly transformation… Lightningface is a short film written and directed by Brian Petsos, an up-and-coming American filmmaker who studied at Second City in Chicago and started out as an actor before getting into filmmaking. For more info on the short, visit the official Lightningface website here. To watch more shorts click here. So what did you think?

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Watch: Peculiar Short Film ‘Lightningface’ Starring Oscar Isaac in Full

Lightningface Short Film

"I thought I knew who I was. But I knew nothing… And then it happened." Let’s kick off this week with a short film we’ve been waiting to watch for over a year. After playing at film festivals all around the world, Vimeo has finally premiered the short film Lightningface online in full, from director Brian Petsos. The short film stars Oscar Isaac as a man named Basil Stitt who goes through a transformative experience after being struck by lightning one day. We originally posted a trailer for this short more than a year ago, and now that it has played at fests exclusively, it’s available online. This is a very strange, intriguing short that goes to some trippy places at the end. It’s great to see Oscar Isaac in this, but I’m not sure what to make of it. You?

Lightningface Short Film

Official synopsis: Lightningface stars Oscar Isaac as Basil, a man who seemingly has it all. When out for a smoke one night, Basil gets struck by lightning – he wakes up to find his face scarred and quickly spirals out of control, sequestering himself in his apartment as he cuts ties with his girlfriend, his family, and his work. He then begins to believe that he is bound of an otherworldly transformation… Lightningface is a short film written and directed by Brian Petsos, an up-and-coming American filmmaker who studied at Second City in Chicago and started out as an actor before getting into filmmaking. For more info on the short, visit the official Lightningface website here. To watch more shorts click here. So what did you think?

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Watch: Peculiar Short Film ‘Lightningface’ Starring Oscar Isaac in Full

Lightningface Short Film

"I thought I knew who I was. But I knew nothing… And then it happened." Let’s kick off this week with a short film we’ve been waiting to watch for over a year. After playing at film festivals all around the world, Vimeo has finally premiered the short film Lightningface online in full, from director Brian Petsos. The short film stars Oscar Isaac as a man named Basil Stitt who goes through a transformative experience after being struck by lightning one day. We originally posted a trailer for this short more than a year ago, and now that it has played at fests exclusively, it’s available online. This is a very strange, intriguing short that goes to some trippy places at the end. It’s great to see Oscar Isaac in this, but I’m not sure what to make of it. You?

Lightningface Short Film

Official synopsis: Lightningface stars Oscar Isaac as Basil, a man who seemingly has it all. When out for a smoke one night, Basil gets struck by lightning – he wakes up to find his face scarred and quickly spirals out of control, sequestering himself in his apartment as he cuts ties with his girlfriend, his family, and his work. He then begins to believe that he is bound of an otherworldly transformation… Lightningface is a short film written and directed by Brian Petsos, an up-and-coming American filmmaker who studied at Second City in Chicago and started out as an actor before getting into filmmaking. For more info on the short, visit the official Lightningface website here. To watch more shorts click here. So what did you think?

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